Why I'm Not "Waiting On" My Future Husband

I was driving home from work a couple of weeks ago, talking to The Lord, and He gave me the title for this blog, so here's praying that this actually comes out how He intended.   

I'm a 25 year old, single, female who passionately loves the Lord and is not waiting on her future husband. You may be confused and thinking didn't she write a blog about why she is waiting until marriage to have sex? Yes I did! I am waiting on a few things in life, but my future husband is not one of them. To help you gain a better understanding of why let's look at the definition of the word:

Wait (verb): stay where one is or delay action until a particular time or until something else happens.
  
Hmm...
Based off that definition if I were to "wait" on my future husband, I would idly sit by until He showed up. Sounds crazy right? Well the sad thing is that many of us women are doing just that. We think that when we meet our "prince charming" is when our lives will truly begin. We secretly or openly despise being single and disregard this season of preparation that the Lord has given us because we somehow have been bamboozled into thinking that the grass is greener on the other side. NEWSFLASH: IT'S NOT!!! I see posts on social media all the time that say "I'm waiting on my Boaz/Adam"and while I agree that you shouldn't waste your time casually dating a bunch of different guys, I want to address how we as women should be waiting. The Bible tells us to:

"Wait for the LORD; Be strong and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for the LORD."

Psalms 27:14 (NASB)

You see I'm waiting on The Lord, not on my future spouse, because my trust and hope is in Him and not man. I may be expectant that The Lord will bring me a spouse, in His perfect timing, but I cannot allow that to prevent me from developing emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

Every single day, I have the opportunity to allow The Lord to prepare, shape, and mold me into the woman that I'm supposed to be. I'll let you in on something: I'M NOT PERFECT!!! Some days I'm irritable, frustrated, lacking in patience, lazy, selfish, etc. I don't always do what I should and I have a past that The Lord is restoring me from. I'm daily fighting against my flesh and striving to be Spirit-led and honestly some days are better than others (Thank you Jesus for your grace and mercy). I have my own issues and struggles that I am continually taking before The Lord and I recognize that I need to be whole before I can be a proper helpmeet to my future spouse. Does that mean I totally ignore my desire to be a wife and mother one day? Nope, but it's also not my main focus. I pray for my future husband and children, as The Lord leads, but I can't afford to spend hours upon hours daydreaming about my future that I miss out on appreciating the gifts God that has given me right now.

So yes, you should wait until God presents your future spouse to you, but you should not put your life on hold. You need to be present and active in your season of singleness, not waiting around like Rapunzel for her prince to come and rescue her. You were already rescued by a man 2,000 years ago, named Jesus, when He died on the cross for your sins. Your one day future spouse is not going to complete you, they are going to complement you. He will not be able to fill the void in your heart and it's unfair to put that type of expectation on him. Ladies, you will be a helpmeet to a man of God, who has a mission from God to accomplish. When soldiers go to battle they aren't just thrown out onto the battlefield without first being trained. So what makes us think that when we one-day get married we all of a sudden be ready? Now granted there is nothing like the real thing, but you can let The Lord prepare you during your single season, however He sees fit. Marriage is definitely not a fairytale and requires work, I'm around plenty of married couples on a daily basis to understand that. Plus godly marriages are that much harder, because the enemy is out to literally destroy God's design for marriage and the family.

As single women, our hope and focus must continually be on The Lord and not on our one-day potential spouse. My future spouse will not be my savior or daddy, he will be my HUSBAND and we will have a purpose to accomplish together!!! I'm sure that he wants to find me working and serving The Lord with my whole heart, instead of idly waiting around for him to one day appear. To be preparing myself to unselfishly love and serve him and our future family through serving and loving on those I come into contact with. Blooming wherever The Lord has chosen to plant me! When The Lord sees fit to present me to my future mate, I want to bring something more than good looks to the table.

I wrote a blog last year entitled "Making The Most Of Your Single Season" which I recommend you read for ideas of things you can be doing as a single woman, if you feel stuck or even discontent in your current season. Remember that you are exactly where God wants you to be, so trust Him!!! Stop waiting around for a man and start living the life that God has called you to live, NOW!!!

Until next time,

Cierra

xoxo

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!!!!